The 2014 Jacksonville Youth Summit, which is the Summit Contracting Group’s way of giving back to the community, particularly the younger generation, is a means to educate the youth and help them lead purpose-driven lives. As the biggest city in Florida, Jacksonville is the home to a sizable number of young people, comprising 30% of their population. Hence, the events held for the youth are highly needed and appreciated.…
One day, your daughter comes home, and all she talks about is a party being hosted by a kid in her school and how every cool person in the school is sure to attend. She insists that she has to attend this party and tells you she wouldn’t forgive you if you don’t let her. Seeing as you were a child once who already knows what goes on in those kinds of parties, you also insist that she won’t be attending this party. She sulks and complains of how you are mean and how you don’t want her to make any friends.
At one point in your teen’s life, they will want to do something or act in a certain way because their friends are doing those same things. With the advent of social media and the ease at which chat with strangers occur, your teen is not only being pressurized by friends at school but also by faceless strangers whom you know nothing about.
PEER PRESSURE AND HOW IT INFLUENCES YOUR TEEN
Peer pressure is that feeling your teen has of wanting to do something because their friends or people in their social group tend to be doing it. This feeling stems from the need to want to be liked or respected by their peers and people in their social group. Every teenager goes through this stage at some point in their development.
Peer pressure is not necessarily a bad thing. In some ways, it is expected that teenagers will get influenced by some of their friends. This is because as the years go by, teenagers will begin to carry out activities that will take them away from home and most of this time will be spent with friends. With this constant time being spent with their friends comes the desire to fit in and be liked by their friends.
Peer pressure can be good or bad. Teenagers may become assertive, competitive or want to try new activities just by being with their friends. Some teenagers can also be forced into doing things they wouldn’t normally do like smoking, drinking or taking part in activities that are negative just to fit in with the crowd.
Peer pressure might result in teenagers wanting to dress alike or do the same hairstyles. It might also result in the same taste in music because that seems to be the cool music making the rounds in their social group.
It might also lead them into exhibiting anti societal behaviors like breaking rules, stealing, truancy, and becoming unserious in school. For this reason, many families have decided to help their teens get through these growing pains and life experiences that come with moving into adulthood by looking into getting professional help, even if it’s free; more about that here: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/therapy/get-free-online-therapy-should-you-use-free-counseling/.
The effects of peer pressure are felt intensely among close friends. This stems from the fact that close friends care about each other and also because most teenagers value the opinions of their close friends. Teenagers are more likely to succumb to pressure from their close friends because it feels more personal than when that same pressure is coming from a large group. For instance, a teenage girl’s best friend joins a new crowd and becomes a party animal. That teenage girl might have difficulty saying no when her best friend invites her to these parties even when she knows these parties might end up not being in her best interest. She would choose to attend because she doesn’t want to lose her friend totally or cause her friend’s opinion about her to change.
In the same vein, teenagers can also set positive examples for each other. Teenagers are drawn to other teens that share the same interests or have similar hobbies. A shy teenager who finds himself among friends who can speak up for themselves will in time learn the act of speaking out and overcome shyness.
When making individual choices, friends of your teenager can also help. Peer groups are for listening to each other and to give advice when necessary. According to teenshealth.com, a teenager’s peer group is more likely to speak up about something they consider risky or a huge mistake.
Though you are sometimes prone to worrying about the influence of peer groups on your teen, remember that peer pressure doesn’t always lead to negative behavior and can sometimes be healthy for your child.…
The teenage years are one of the hardest years for your child and you as a parent. At this point, there are so many things vying for the attention of your child. There are hormones, mood swings, school pressure and the worst of all, peer pressure. You are worried, wondering if the values you have instilled in them will prevent them from falling in with the wrong crowd. You are hoping they are strong enough to conquer the temptations that will come in the form of their friends asking them to make wrong choices. Wanting to fit in can lead a teenager into difficult situations because at this point, they are willing to conform so they can be liked by the people in their social group. This pressure to conform to the attitudes, characters or values of other kids who belong to your child’s social group or a social group your child aspires to belong to is Peer pressure.
Peer pressure can be positive, instilling a sense of competition in your child and pushing them to take part in extracurricular activities. Peer pressure can also be negative, causing your child to flout the rules and participate in activities they ordinarily wouldn’t have been part of. As a parent, you can effectively warn your teen or take them to a therapist for talk therapy to prevent them from making wrong choices and give them the necessary tools needed to enable them to deal with peer pressure and tell them more from this post: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/therapy/talking-therapies-how-talk-therapy-can-help-you-in-treatment/
Here are some ways to also protect your child from being pressured into negative behaviors:
Boost your child’s confidence. A person who is confident with a high self-esteem is not easily swayed into doing what he/she doesn’t want. The more confident your child is, the less the desire to want to conform and be part of the crowd. When your child lacks self-confidence, he feels the need to seek for validation from other people, and this might push them into doing negative things just to prove themselves. Teach your teen to be secure in him/herself. Praise them for being able to take certain decisions. Compliment them. Avoid ridiculing them or using words that can shame them. Laugh with your children and teach them that there is nothing wrong in being able to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. A man’s mistake doesn’t define a man. Encourage them to learn from their mistakes.
Encourage your teenager to be independent in their thinking and decision-making process. Train your child to make decisions and recognize when he/she has made a good decision. You can help improve your child’s ability to make decisions by asking them questions about a situation and what they feel the best solution should be. Allow them to brainstorm on the situation and give different solutions. You can discuss the consequences of each solution with them and then let them choose the one they think is the best out of all they have mentioned. This is after you are sure they have weighed all the consequences involved. This helps in promoting independent thinking and helps them in their decision-making process by always making sure they consider the consequences of their actions.
Encourage and inspire your kids daily. You can encourage them to read up or help them search for books or movies that inspire kids to be true to themselves and discover their passions and talents and not give into peer pressure.
Learn to listen. Teenagers just want to be heard and understood. Learn to listen when they are talking about the pressures they are facing and try not to overreact when they say something shocking. It will only make them shut down and cease communication. Stay calm and focus on what your child needs.
Get to know the friends your child is keeping. It is very important that you know the people your child is hanging out with. You can encourage your teen to bring them over so you can interact with them and maybe assess their behavior.
Act out peer pressure scenarios and teach your child how to act in cases like that. It’s time for a little bit of role play. Practice peer pressure scenarios. You can act as the one putting the pressure and see how your kid reacts to those kinds of situations. Educate them on how to say no without causing conflict. Teach them that ‘No’ means no, and they do not have to explain themselves.…
Most of the teenagers consider their life incomplete without music. According to teenagers, music is an integral part of their life and it helps them in dealing with many pressures they face within their personal and social circles. Most of the teenagers spend more than two hours a day listening to music as stated by the New York Times. According to the study, listening to music often has a positive impact on the life of the teenagers. The main benefit is that it helps in enhancing their mood and sometimes even provides an escape. It also provides them an outlet for emotion and creativity especially when they write or sing songs. Below are a few other ways in which music helps teenagers cope with pressures of their life:…
Comparing yourself from other people is unavoidable. You have this innate desire to know how you are doing compared to others in terms of intelligence, beauty, salary and other aspects of life. More often than not, you feel pressured trying to hold and maintain the standards that the majority set for the rest to follow.
Why bother with the pressure?
Pressure is a big factor in understanding how an individual comes up to a decision. It usually comes from the people around you, from your friends, colleagues, family members, and significant others. That is why we have this concept of PEER PRESSURE which pertains to the influential prowess that other people hold over our decisions and actions. There are two types of peer pressure– the good peer pressure and the bad peer pressure. The latter is usually involved among individuals influencing each other negatively such as using illegal drugs, participating in reckless unprotected sex and gambling. This bad peer pressure intends you to do the things that you really want to do but still would consider of doing for the sake of your peer’s acceptance towards you. Hence, bad peer pressure doesn’t do you any good. It will only give more problems should you fall into the addiction trap and eventually need help overcoming addiction.…